There were a few lessons learned that day that will not soon be forgotten...

My head certainly wasn't totally clear after receiving this news.  However, I was clear enough to know exactly what was happening around me, and, in retrospect, what I learned that night (almost) made going through it worthwhile.

First, I was fortunate enough to have my wife and her sister with me there.  While she is not "technically" my sister, I am proud to claim her as such.  There were many others, including my wife's parents (who again, I claim as my own, whether they like it or not) and friends who sent support and offers of "anything at all that we needed".

If you are a patient, you probably understand, as I had been reminded that day, how everything that we take for granted can be taken away from us so quickly.  As the saying goes, "Man plans... and God laughs".  Do not -- I repeat, DO NOT -- take this for granted.  Tell your family and friends how you feel about them.  Hug your kids... over and over again.  I know it sounds ridiculous, but participate in a "random act of kindness".  In short, PAY IT FORWARD.  You won't regret any of it.  You have my guarantee.

Second, remember this -- Any health care worker who cares at all about what they do does not intend to do you harm, or endanger you in any way intentionally.  These are the folks that truly want to go home after their day of work, doing things that most of us others couldn't imagine doing, and take comfort in a job well done -- even if it meant just making a small difference in one patient's day.

That is why it is YOUR job as the patient to be involved in your care.  Have your most important medical records organized, and bring them to the hospital if you need to go.  Smile and say "thank you" to the Doctors and nurses when they go out of their way for you...  It makes them feel good also.  And finally, and certainly most importantly, be informed about your care.  ASK QUESTIONS when you don't understand.  There certainly isn't any place to be rude or inconsiderate to them, but be firm, fair, and direct about your concerns.  If you aren't comfortable with the answer, ask again -- or get a second opinion.  Remember, it is your care, your health, your body -- and your life.

Stepping down from my soap box, now...  As I said, there were more surprises to come that day.